View Full Version : Prayers for Rege

05-01-2007, 05:09 PM
Once again, I come to my Steelers brothers and sisters and online family and ask for your prayers.

My friend, Rege, was at a McKees Rocks establishment on Saturday night, enjoying an evening out with a couple of his friends. While Rege is a big guy, he is truly one of the kindest, most caring and passive people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. (XT - you met Rege at Ken's birthday party a while back.) One of the drunken patrons at the club started a fistfight with one of Rege's friends and knocked him off the bar stool, causing him to hit his head. Rege, who was sitting down from his friend, rushed to help him when he was suddenly grabbed from behind around his neck and throat by one of the club's bouncers. The other two bouncers then jumped on top of the bouncer who had him by his neck in a "choke hold" and all of them went down. The first bouncer did not let Rege out of the hold until they discovered Rege had suddenly stopped breathing. The paramedics were called for both Rege's friend who had a deep laceration to his forehead from being knocked off the bar stool, and most importantly for Rege. It took them almost 15 minutes to get there. His heart stopped several times on the way to the hospital, but they were able to get it beating again when they got to AGH. Rege was immediately placed on a ventilator and has been in a deep coma ever since.

This morning, the ICU doctors ran an EEG and it showed no brain activity at all. The situation has become very grave and the docs spoke to the family at length this morning - I have not received word yet as to what that discussion entailed, but from once being a nurse, I have an idea. There are videotapes from the club which the police now have which clearly show that Rege did nothing to warrant being attacked like that by the club's bouncers. There are definitely going to be some criminal charges levied against both the club and the three bouncers and if Rege doesn't make it, I was told today that homicide charges will be filed.

Rege worked for a lot of years with Ken and he and I remained close friends. I just spoke with him last week and he was looking forward to his summer vacation. He has two college aged children - I know what a fantastic father he is and I'm sure they are devastated. I believe in miracles and I am hoping that Our Father has saved one for Rege. He is only in his 40's and has never hurt anyone in his entire life.

Please pray for him and his family that he receives that miracle, but in the event God has other plans for my sweet friend, that God grants him a peaceful and serene passing.

Thank you all for your prayers.

05-01-2007, 05:11 PM
You bet my thoughts and prayers go out to him!

05-01-2007, 06:25 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and his family, HTG. God bless.

05-01-2007, 06:52 PM
Yes, I do remember meeting Rege, HTG - he was a very nice and friendly person. It's really a shame what's happened to him and he'll definitely be in my prayers.

05-01-2007, 08:50 PM
You have my condolences and most sincere prayers for your friend and his loved ones HTG. I know that it's difficult to deal with,.....especially considering the nature of the situation.
But keep faith babygirl in the knowledge that there is purpose in all things. And that if it be the will of the Father,...your friend will indeed pull through. And that what we may consider 'Miracles' are but simply a small measure of his power and mercy,.. should we ask for as much.

05-02-2007, 07:15 AM
My heavenly father and Lord Jesus Christ I pray to you this morning, lifting up Rege to you. We know that you are in control of all things. Today Lord, we who call upon your name ask for a miracle healing to Rege. One that would stupdify the doctors but be a witness to you!

And Father if it is your will that Rege come be with you, then I ask that your Peace and Comfort surround his family and friends!

HTG - please pass along our prayers to his family and know that we are here for you if you need anything.

We know that you are the true physician and that nothing is beyond you. You raised Lazerus from the dead and I believe and I know that you can work a great healing in Rege.

I ask not that my will or anyone's will be done but YOURS!

In Jesus' name - AMEN!!!

05-02-2007, 07:36 AM
Thank you all and thank you, stlrtruck, for the lovely and heartfelt prayers. :hug: I will most definitely pass all of your well wishes on to Rege's family. I am still waiting to hear something this morning as to where things stand.

05-02-2007, 08:43 AM
My heart and prayers are with you and your friend as you face this, Marianne. Please keep us updated.

05-02-2007, 03:14 PM
Prayers from the 'burgh.


05-02-2007, 03:21 PM
Sending much love and prayers from Memphis....what an awful thing to happen!

I pray God's grace sustain you and your friend as well as his family. :hug:

05-02-2007, 08:50 PM
Your friend and his family are in my thoughts and prayers.

05-02-2007, 09:52 PM
HTG.... I'm sorry to hear this...these bouncers these days can really get out of hand!

My thoughts and prayers go out to Rege

05-03-2007, 07:30 AM
Thank you all for your continued prayers. I went down to the hospital to see Rege last night and when I held his hand and started talking to him, I felt his hand move, but that could have been an involuntary muscle reaction, though you never know. It was so, so sad to see this once vibrant, happy and strong man laying there on life support. I tried so hard not to cry, but I couldn't help it. From talking with his brother and parents, the doctors are not optimistic at this point because Rege still has no brain activity and the entire frontal lobe of his brain is swollen. The only positive here is that all of the rest of his organs are working fine, so we're all hoping that the swelling in his brain goes down and he comes out of his coma soon. His brother told me that even if he does come out of it, the doctors have told his family that Rege will still have brain damage from his oxygen being cut off, though at this point, no one knows how severe the damage will be.

I believe in miracles and I'm asking God every night to please save one for Rege.

Thank you all again. :smile:

05-06-2007, 04:58 PM
Just an update, asking for prayers for not only Rege, but for his family so that they make the right decision for Rege.

Rege's organs started to fail yesterday and his blood pressure began to drop significantly. He is now 100% on life support and there are still no brain waves. He has officially been classified as brain dead by his staff of doctors.

I went down again to try to see him last night and was horrified to find out that several minutes before I got to the hospital, there was an enormous fight between Rege's family (father, mother and brother) and his estranged wife whom he filed for divorce against several months ago. The doctors met with everyone about an hour before and told them that there is basically no hope that Rege will ever come out of this and will remain in a persistant vegetative state and totally dependent upon life support. Though they were in the process of divorcing when this happened a week ago today, his wife is still legally the one who calls the shots. It appears she told the doctors that she wanted his life support shut off to allow him to pass with some degree of dignity. His family is totally against this and thus, is where the fight began. They have never liked Rege's wife and that doesn't help matters. I was told by Rege's brother that the argument was so bad that security had to be called.

This is indeed a sad situation because though I'm not overly fond of Rege's wife, I can't say I disagree with her in principle. Right now, what should be important to everyone involved in this decision is what Rege would want, not what any of them want. Knowing him as I do, I can't see him wanting to live the rest of his life in a vegetative state. They all need to put aside the hatred and do what is best for HIM.

I called this morning and left a message on Rege's brother's voicemail and haven't yet heard back from him. I haven't slept much the past several days as this is very hard for me to digest, though I am placing it all in the Lord's hands. Please continue to lift those prayers up for not only Rege that he may pass peacefully into God's Kingdom, but for his loved ones that they may put aside all of their differences and come to a compromise that will be best for Rege.

Thank you all again for your continued prayers and thoughts.

05-06-2007, 05:21 PM

I am so sorry to hear about that. You have been through enough this year. You will be in my prayers.. as will he.

God Bless.

05-06-2007, 05:23 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your friend ...I will keep his family ...and also you... in my prayers

05-06-2007, 05:47 PM
That's so sad, HTG. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I hope that the family can all come together in agreement on this.


05-06-2007, 06:18 PM
HTG... I will continue to pray for Rege and hopefully peace will find the family during this awful time...

I just continue to shake my head when I read how he was hurt....it seems like its always a bystander that comes to help in defense that gets the worse of the situation...

God Bless..

05-06-2007, 06:19 PM
Continuing to keep this situation in my prayers. Thanks for the update.

05-06-2007, 06:28 PM
You already know I'm continuing to pray for him and his family. Just a sad, sad situation...

05-07-2007, 08:12 AM
Thanks guys and gals. No word yesterday or yet this morning. The waiting is the really hard part.

05-08-2007, 06:45 AM
I got word last night that Rege will be taken off life support sometime this morning. Though I feel so much sadness at losing my friend, I take comfort in knowing that if he is suffering, he won't be any longer and will pass on to God's Kingdom with dignity.

05-08-2007, 08:18 AM
We now pray for God's intervention but most importantly for God's WILL for Rege. Have it not as we would desire it lord but as you would have it.

If Your Will is to have Rege be with you, then so be it. If that is the case, then I ask for your peace, and comfort to sorround his family and friends!!

All these things in Jesus' name - AMEN!

05-08-2007, 10:35 AM
My sweet friend, Rege, passed away at 9:20 AM this morning. I feel very empty right now, though I feel a sense of peace that he will suffer no more and his soul has gone to God.

Please continue to pray for his family - they are a very close-knit Italian family and are taking this very, very hard. Thanks.

05-08-2007, 10:51 AM
My sweet friend, Rege, passed away at 9:20 AM this morning. I feel very empty right now, though I feel a sense of peace that he will suffer no more and his soul has gone to God.

Please continue to pray for his family - they are a very close-knit Italian family and are taking this very, very hard. Thanks.

I am so sorry HTG...:hug:

05-08-2007, 10:54 AM
I'm so sorry to hear this, babe. It's really a shame and I still shake my head, because this didn't have to happen. But as you said, at least he is no longer suffering and is in a better place. My condolences and prayers to his family, and of course if you need to talk, you can always contact me.

05-08-2007, 11:06 AM
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, Marianne. Keeping you and Rege's family in my thoughts and prayers. God bless. :crying02: :hug:

05-08-2007, 11:25 AM
Oh, HTG, I am so sorry, Sweetie!! You are in my thoughts and prayers. As someone already said, this is something that did not have to happen. Know that your friends at SF have got your back.


05-08-2007, 12:57 PM

You have my utmost sympathy and prayers...

and again... if you need to talk to anyone, email me... and I will give you the my phone number... anything my wife and I can do... just let me know.

05-08-2007, 02:11 PM
Wow...sorry to hear this. :(

05-08-2007, 03:35 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss Marianne. I will continue to pray for his friends and family. Please let me know what else I can do.

05-09-2007, 03:28 PM
Thank you all. :hug:

No funeral arrangements have been made yet and the word is that Allegheny County Homicide now has the case and are thoroughly investigating what happened. They have the videotapes from the club and eye-witness accounts. We were also told that the Club has been shut down - don't know if it is temporary or permanent, but from what I've heard around town, the owner of that club basically "owns" everyone in McKees Rocks, including the police department. That is why the family requested that ACo. handle the matter.

I know that Jesus teaches us not to hold hate in our hearts, but I'm about as close to it now as I could get for the bastard that took this kind and gentle man away from his family and friends. Grief under these circumstances does tend to spark a bit of anger and I am trying to get past those feelings.

Preacher - thank you for your kind and generous offer - I will take you up on it. :hug:

05-09-2007, 10:36 PM
HTG... I'm sorry for your loss...you have been through enough...its sad that the good guys seem to go before their time.

I hope the people invloved get what they deserve.....

This incident has been on my mind for quite some time...

I'm sorry for your loss HTG.

05-11-2007, 12:02 PM
HTG... I'm sorry for your loss...you have been through enough...its sad that the good guys seem to go before their time.

I hope the people invloved get what they deserve.....

This incident has been on my mind for quite some time...

I'm sorry for your loss HTG.

Thank you NV - much appreciated. I haven't been through half of what others have had to deal with in their lives, but I live by the motto - "if God gets you to it, He will get you through it".

Rege will be laid out this afternoon and evening and laid to rest tomorrow after Mass. I know he is with our Father now and in a peaceful, serene place where he isn't suffering anymore. Eternal rest my dear, sweet Rege - see you when I get there! :hug:

06-04-2007, 11:22 AM
Marianne , I am so sorry for your loss and I just hope that the family is coping the best that they can. I know I am very late on this thread, but I just wanted to remind everyone that you Never Know When Your Time Is Gonna Come.... Please be ready and this means that you need to accept Jesus Christ sooner than later. No One is promised tomorow or the next minute for that matter....

06-04-2007, 02:55 PM
Thank you wedo. :hug: I still miss him so much, but I know he is in the best Hands possible - that of our Father. :smile:

Stainless Steel
06-04-2007, 07:50 PM
So sad to hear about your loss. :crying02: I am praying for you.

06-26-2007, 05:54 AM
Love and best wishes from Seattle