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Old 06-08-2009, 01:50 PM   #1
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Anyone have that friend that just falls off the face of the earth when he gets a girlfriend/wife???

I have seen it countless times. I have a friend who just stopped hanging out with everyone he knows (he may be running with her friends now, who knows?). Now, I may not be the most social guy out there, but I value the guys weekend or night out (as much as my wife does for the girls) and even couples going out, as well.

Why do some people feel the need to totally abandon their friends once they enter a relationship? It's as if you were just a social place holder for them until they met a mate....how depressing.

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It happens. I have friends like that also.

Ive even been accused of it myself, but that was only after our kid was born. Kids take up a lot of time. LOL
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Old 06-08-2009, 01:59 PM   #3
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Sometimes, when the guy meets the girl he starts doing different things, things that are "new". Not going to the same bar, same club, trying new things. Sometimes they are traveling to new places, doing the whole "Have you ever wanted to..." thing and going around together in their new fresh relationship.

Its like that new subway sandwhich, you always liked the BMT, then along comes the Feast, and you eat it, you keep eating it, time and time again, you eat the Feast, then one day, you are in line, and you think, you know what...I miss the BMT. And you go back to it.

Give it time, he'll be back.
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Old 06-08-2009, 02:03 PM   #4
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Anyone have that friend that just falls off the face of the earth when he gets a girlfriend/wife???

I have seen it countless times. I have a friend who just stopped hanging out with everyone he knows (he may be running with her friends now, who knows?). Now, I may not be the most social guy out there, but I value the guys weekend or night out (as much as my wife does for the girls) and even couples going out, as well.

Why do some people feel the need to totally abandon their friends once they enter a relationship? It's as if you were just a social place holder for them until they met a mate....how depressing.

In my case (when I was single)...it was the girl who pushed that agenda. There are just certain females who feel that "If you really care about me...show me that I am #1 in your life...and tell your friends that you are spending the night with me".

Sometimes they flat out say it...sometimes it is more passive-aggressive and you would just catch "attitude" and "drama" in an attempt to make you think its just not worth going out with the guys. In my case, it went over like a turd in a punch bowl, and I would call it out for what it was....insecurity!!!.

I can think of at least two girls that I had to kindly tell that they needed to "grow-up" and that it really wouldnt be in their best interest to give me an ultimatum.

I would bet that your buddy has a high maintenance girl, and that at times she is something of a drama queen.

In short..your buddy has been "neurtered".
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In short..your buddy has been "neurtered".
That's exactly it.

It's insecurity on the significant other's part and his own insecurity for not addressing it. The funny thing is we had another friend who got divorced recently and this was one of the major symptoms of the marriage falling apart. He swore NEVER to be that way again, after crawling back to his friends. Now, he is remarried and, for the first time, we actually go out to dinner, wives and all!!

Anyway, there really is no excuse for it, kids, marriage, whatever. My friends are spread out across the US. One is in California, one in NC, one in Pittsburgh, one in Buffalo and I'm in Detroit. We still get together from time to time when we can...and almost all of us have jobs, kids and wives.

I don't care enough to be pissed...I'm just diappointed.
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A wife wakes up and sees her husband isn't in bed. She finds him in the kitchen crying over a cup of coffee.

"What's wrong?" the wife asks.

"Remember when you were only 16 and I was 18 and your dad caught us in the back seat of my car? He put a shotgun in my face and said, 'Either you marry my daughter, or you'll go to jail for twenty years.'"

The wife says, "Of course I remember. But, why are you crying?"

"Today is the day I would have been let out of jail!"
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A wife wakes up and sees her husband isn't in bed. She finds him in the kitchen crying over a cup of coffee.

"What's wrong?" the wife asks.

"Remember when you were only 16 and I was 18 and your dad caught us in the back seat of my car? He put a shotgun in my face and said, 'Either you marry my daughter, or you'll go to jail for twenty years.'"

The wife says, "Of course I remember. But, why are you crying?"

"Today is the day I would have been let out of jail!"
That is pretty funny, but, the point is a marriage does not have to be a prison term. Insecurity is the doom of marriages...thank GOD my wife has low to nill insecurity....that was one of the main factors that attracted me to her.
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Maybe it's time you gave up your gay love for your guy.
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Hammer is a girl? Well I guess I screwed up that joke.
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